Tuesday 26 November 2013

The Summer Of fun (Part Two).....

I am really getting slow about adding entries here, aren't I?, sorry everyone, just been real busy and every time I've sat down in front of the screen to start one, something comes up and it's left for later. Not today!, I'm downright determined to offer one up before I do anything else.

The last lines laid here were about our trip to Hawkesbury Ontario and that was at the start of Summer. After a week away we returned home without our children. My Sister and her Husband generously offered to take our Sons on vacation with them. They booked a houseboat for four days and the boys were extremely excited to be joining them. It was a long ride home from Hawkesbury so we stayed overnight at my Sisters before saying goodbye to everyone on Sunday. The two hour trip from there to home was an enjoyable one and we were loving the feel of freedom. I'm sure any of you that are parents, can relate. I was looking forward to a nice long break from being a Mom and having time alone with my Hubby. Well we did get a few days but not many because I was called on to assist my Aunt in Michigan. You see, her and her husband help care for his elderly Aunt and Uncle. They needed someone to cook, clean and stay with them for a few days. I happily accepted the offer and I'm so glad that I did. Though I have spent a good amount of time with the elderly over the years, this was an experience I had never had. The Wife half of this couple was 92 at the time, is almost completely deaf and suffers from severe Dementia. The Husband, a war veteran, is in decent health but has only one leg and is in a wheelchair. Both very pleasant, polite and easy to please people. It was wonderful to see how much love and concern can still be shown after 60+ years of marriage. Also enjoyable was seeing the other side of their relationship. Like when he would try and tell her something, she would ask him over and over to repeat himself but just ended up waving her hands and saying "oh I can't hear you, never mind!". That made me giggle because he would just shake his head and laugh at her. There were many times my blood pumper sunk seeing her distress and frustration with not being able to remember much of anything. She spoke of the same three or four things everyday, for most of the hours that slowly went by. Please don't think I am complaining in any way because I ain't. I'm just trying to describe with detail what the experience was like, in a wordy way. Seeing her cry were some of the saddest moments to sit through. Any of you that know me well can state how hard it is for me to keep the eye leaks behind my lids, at bay. How horrible it must be to have your thoughts slip away and know they were once there. Numerous times she asked me my name and never was able to make it sink in the think tank. He also has struggles but was always smiling while being good and grateful for everything. They don't often watch t.v unless a baseball game was on and there weren't any televised when I was there. This was in July so the weather was warm but not sweltering like some Summers we've had around here. Each afternoon we would sit outside, next to their big pine tree and have ice cream. It didn't matter what you gave this adorable couple, they loved everything and anything given to them. Wish I could bottle that and inject it into certain folks I know, including myself at times. After my last day with them, I left grateful and feeling quite blessed for not only my well health but for my age, forty-two looked a lot lovelier once spent with a few days around couple in their nineties.

Next up in my Summer of fun was a night out with two girls I babysat years ago. They are both grown with babies of their own now and the youngest treated us to food, drinks and a lot of laughter for her Sisters birthday. Both ladies live out in the county and I was asked to spend the night at the birthday girls house. We had a very enjoyable evening that would continue on the next day at their Mother's house. I don't often see my Dear friend and I was delighted to be invited to the gathering for her oldest Daughter. It wasn't a formal feast but it sure was a fine one. As my old friend made her rounds and prepared our BBQ buffet I recalled the years we spent together doing just the same thing when her Daughters were wee ones. Oh the late nights and rainy days we shared laughing and fussing about party favours, decorations or people to invite. The memories flew back and I enjoyed revisiting them. This lady and her Daughters were a huge part of my life as a teen and I always love spending any time I get with them. I'm telling ya, if I drove there would never be a friend or family member I'd miss, they would all get sick of me real quick. Thanks Ma, Kelly and Amy for the wonderful walk down memory lane, I love you ladies, largely!

On to our next vacation, this time at our Aunt and Uncle's, along with my Sis and the branches in her bunch. This would be the first of, not one but TWO weeks of wonderful with them. This one was in July and the second would be at the end of August but I'm getting ahead of myself here. My Husband wouldn't be able to spend the whole week with us as he had to work but he would join us for the next one. We didn't spend our time traveling to here or there, we spent our hours cooking, sharing awesome eats, cleaning up, swimming, and paddle boating. A highlight of the trip was swimming late night with my Godchild, a beautiful, smart, funny teen that has more talent in her little fingernail than I do in all of my large lard load. Another enjoyable time was spent with all our kids at a near by park. Seeing my seventeen year old play on the monkey bars was a sight that still sparks a smile when it whips to mind. Sitting here in the nest with Winters cold hold outside, makes me long for those warm wonderful days of this past Summer. My Sis insists I must learn to embrace every season but I say, "Stay Long Summer, speed off to the rest!". Unfortunately, it's seems to work the opposite of that wish, especially Winter. Okay, that's rather enough griping about what can't be changed, back to the terrific things we did. As always when I am with loved ones, the most enjoyable moments are watching how others interact but sometimes it can be a sad thing to see. This was the case for a day during our stay. My youngest Son and Sister had words and it erupted into anger between the three of us, ended up ruining my whole day but that was my choice, not theirs. I won't go into the ugly of it but I will say that I'm not proud of how my child or I handled our hotheadedness. Hopefully we learned a lesson from it, only time will tell. One of the best things about the whole Summer for me were the nights I slept alone, outside on a patio lounge chair, ahhhhhh heaven to me!. There were no bugs buzzing about and a completely clear sky above, filled with nature's flashlight, the marvelous moon and a slew of stars as far as my eyes could see. Yes indeed, heavenly to me!. Tremendous thanks to our Aunt and Uncle that continue to tolerate our crazy and welcome us back for more!

I think I will end this entry by telling you of a very special vacation my youngest Son and I had. Friends of my Husband and I asked me to watch their house for twelve days in August while they drove across the country to visit her Son. Aidn and I jumped at the chance, they have three dogs, a beautiful house across from Lake Lady Erie, a pool, hot tub, trampoline and fire pit, "yee haw!", said we. During our stay we would have a handful of visitors. A friend I don't often see stopped by for awhile and it was great chatting with her again. Hubby, my Cousin and his two Sons along with our Son's friend, came out for a few sleeps. Man did we have a great time!. I loved the days and nights we spent there. Swimming before the sun was up, biking to town for a few things or just relaxing by the pool was wonderful. I also spent much time cleaning, cooking and tidying up after the dogs but that too was enjoyable. In the twelve days there, only two were filled with rain. The remainder of the days and nights were glorious, warm and saturated with the sun and moon. Two of my most favorite things in life!. Did I mention the few fine nights we had around the fire pit?. Why is seeing little ones struggling with the stickiness of marshmallows so entertaining?. Singing country songs late at night with my Husband and Cousin were also highlights, none of us can stake a claim to Sinatra's silkiness but we sounded sweet as sugar to me!. Probably the most memorable thing of the entire Summer was seeing a live pelican in the Wheatley harbour. I have loved and collected pelican anything for years, what a treat it was witnessing one right in front of my eyes. You see, they are an unheard of sight in these parts of the planet I play on.

I know there are many fine folks and memories made with them that I am forgetting to mention but I must leave somethings for the think tank to sink it's mind into for later, I guess. With that typed, I'll bid you all a fine farewell and will plan on not letting so much time pass between now and my next entry. May the remainder of this day hold you in a happy and healthy way. Thanks for reading what's in the mind grounds, I'll add a few pictures and a song my Cousin and I sang, so late one night.




Wednesday 18 September 2013

Heading For Hawkesbury, Leaving From Lachute: (Part One From The Summer Of Fun).....

Hello again everyone! (waving)
It sure has been a busy Summer and I'm sorry that I wasn't able to add any entries in the past few months. Many things do I have to type about so I'll start where I last laid lines, here. June had us jaunting around and July along with August hauled us off to here, there and everywhere. A vacation to visit my Hubby Bub's family in Hawkesbury Ontario, would be the first of many enjoyable memories made this Summer. A long drive it is, from here, more than ten hours away but worth every mile in smiles and laughter we shared with our loved ones. For the first time in years, all of my Husband's siblings would be together in the same space. The weather was warm but not with the ton of sun we had hoped for, made no difference though as we all enjoyed each others company. My Hubby Bub comes from a family of nine children and falls next to the last in line. Like with my own flock, I love different things about each of them but at times share an opinion other than their own. For me though, that's what make families some of the finest things in life. I stated that our vacation destination was over ten hours away but on this trip it took us twelve and a half. I blame Hubby Bub's pea sized bladder. Actually, we just wanted to take our time, we love long drives!. We arrived to the excited smiles we so longed to see, a few fine eye leaks and all around love from time spent apart. It was so wonderful seeing that side of the family again. I get on well with all of them and try to soak up each of their individual personalities. They have a very laid back rapport with each other and humor is at the heart of their happiness shared, when they gather. I smile thinking of each one of them, for different reasons. We spent the entire visit sleeping in a beautiful trailer that sat proudly out front on my Sister and Brother-In-Law's lawn. Boy do I love those two fine folks!. Let me beam about about them a bit. For the second time in a row, they opened their home, fridge, hamper and camper to us. I will always be grateful for not only the hospitality, generosity and good giggles we shared but for the forgiveness they've always shown me. Sometimes I can be a bit stubborn and stupidly, you know?, anyway, thank you both for letting us spend some unforgettable time with you and your wonderful children.  For fear of starting a family feud, let me just state again how much I love and enjoy every single member of my Husband's family!...hehehe. Also, our Son's did spend a sleep over with Meme and I'm glad they spent alone time with her and one of their Aunt's.

This wasn't just any trip to Hawkesbury, this was a reunion and it was the highlight of all our days and there were many marvelous moments. The sky didn't seep and I'm taking full credit for it, blowing clouds away works, even if it doesn't always make way for blue skies and I don't care what anyone else believes!. It didn't rain!, we were all relived and enjoyed each other more, because of it. Oh the laughter we shared!. Some of the siblings brought games/gifts for everyone, what fun!. I don't know which one was my favorite, to hard too choose but I will say, the one gift that got my eyes leaking was from one of Hubby's older Sister's. She had shirts made for each of her Brother's and Sister's. On it were all their names and nicknames from when they were kids, listed from oldest to youngest, detailed in Irish Green lettering!. Such a beautiful gift!, it still gets me misty eyed. Another great gift/game was washer toss, brought by the oldest Brother. I liked it better than horseshoes. Both are basically the same but I found washer toss fuller with fun!. That same Brother would hand all of us our sides with the laughter he served up. One of the other games had us all unable to say the word "No" or "Know", it was simple really, if you said that word then you were out of the game. Boy did I lose that one quickly. Also, I picked the winner right away, as most others did. No one I know can hold their tongue better than my Sister-In-Law. Man!, could I learn a lot from her. We feasted on the finest of foods, far to many to make mention of here but I must give thanks to the oldest Sister for making sure her little Brother had his favorite food, from her. We played games into the early evening then settled into swimming and sitting by the fire. Our youngest Son and his younger Cousin were complete fish and weren't out of the water long enough for their gills to dry. Our oldest Son was a big help and it was great seeing him enjoy the family, nice that he had two Cousins, very close to his age, around to keep him company. Sitting by the fire proved to be some of the finest moments for me. Have you heard the song "The Boy's 'Round Here" by Blake Shelton?, well through the song you can hear the words Red, red, red, red, Redneck and my Hubby Bub's big Brother would sing it to any one of us, at any given time. It was completely comical but probably one of those moments that you just had to be there. The day of the reunion went by faster than all  the others and I would have a heart full of sadness because of it. I am proud to say that I didn't stay and share it with everyone else. I removed myself from the others and spent most of the following day alone, which was what I needed to do.

Some other terrific times we shared included visiting a few places in Quebec and going to a water park in Gatineau. I'm pretty sure I can safely state our Son's two favorite things. #1 Eating Poutine at Ma Belle's, #2 Playing hide and seek on the four wheelers, at the farm. Thinking about all the wonderful times we spent with loved ones this Summer has me sporting a mile wide smile, right now. I must take this opportunity to tell you a little about the Senorita that started this all. My Mother-In-Law, we'll call her "Spun" because that's my nick-knack-name, for her. She is a wonderful woman who is filled with strength, faith and love for others, a fabulous example of a fine human being, indeed. I sometimes wonder how chaotic her life must have been at times, raising four girls and five boys. She didn't do it alone and I'm proud to say that she made all those babies with one man. Something that seems to be slipping away in society. Her Husband worked many hours and was the lone "Bread Winner", as their family grew. I remember my Father-In-Law well. What wonderful memories do I have of him, not many because he died shortly after his Son and I wed but the ones I have are bright and beautiful, just like he was. I must tell you of the time I lost their dentures, I'm unsure if they were "Spun's" or her Husband's but I do remember feeling more fear than I ever had before. Did I mention my Father-In-Law was an Irishman with an intimidating look about him?. I couldn't have been more relieved and grateful that he didn't just kill me there with a cold stare. Instead, he and Spun made me feel at ease and blew it off as an accident that happened while I was trying to be kind. You see, I was cleaning up in the garage and trying to help. I ended up throwing away the recently purchased, expensive dentures that were in a kleenex, out with the trash. We all looked for them, tossing about rubbish like there were a diamond mine to be found at the bottom of any given bag. I am such a Tard at times. I now check everything I throw out. They could have made me pay for them but instead, they forgave me and never made a fuss about it. I'm so glad Spun can laugh about it now.

Well folks, I'm a bit out of practice here and my back is telling me it's time to move on to other things. With that, I'll bid you all a dandily day and hope that you enjoy the remainder of this one!. Thanks for reading what's in the Mind Grounds, see ya in sentences, soonly. I'll add a few photos and the song I spoke of, earlier.







Tuesday 25 June 2013

We Didn't Weed Up With Willie.....

Well, we didn't weed up with Willie but we did have a wonderful time. I have many things to mention but before I get to the title of this blog, I think I'll begin with telling you about how we spent Father's Day, this year. Like most years before, this Daddy's Day was spent with many of us at the nursing home. Though she isn't a Father, we gathered to celebrate our Meme's ninety-first birthday. Her actual big day was on June 14th but it's easier for all the families to meet up on the weekend. Lucky are we who were there to share in another year of life for her. Meme was sleepy but did manage to enjoy some of her cake. The weather forecast was woeful but I'm pleased to state that blowing the clouds away, worked, once again. After a couple hours of visiting, we headed over to the house that started us all. Our Uncle lives there now and he did a dandy job of cleaning the yard and even painted "the shed". I felt such pride as we walked into the backyard and towards the fire-pit. Of all the things that still stand on that property, the fire-pit or shed are two spots that I wish could speak about the years we've all gathered around them. This year had us enjoying some visitors that were joining us for the first time in the yard. Our Cousin's Wife invited some of her family to share in the great food and company and it was a pure pleasure having them there with us. The feast was our usual, spare ribs cooked over the fire-pit along with many different dishes made by generous guests. My Husband did the majority of the BBQ'n but did get some helping hands. Everyone had a good time and I'm good and grateful that our Uncle made such an effort for everyone, he even bought all the ribs, thirty-six slabs!. That was by far the most we've ever made and I'm happy to say that we still have some frozen, to feast on at a later date.

Our next exciting event would be our youngest Son's birthday, on June 19th, Aidn turned eleven years old and we spent some of his birthday with my Sister who was in town to celebrate with us. Her gift was dinner at his choice of restaurant. My Husband, oldest Son and myself were invited along. Aidn picked Red Lobster and it was definitely delicious!. He even had the waitress hitting on him and it was great fun to see a stranger want to make his birthday special. It's always a treat having my family together but when my Sister is around, it's extra special. Thank you for celebrating with us Julie, your never ending efforts are always appreciated. Afterwards, we headed back home for birthday cake and were pleased that some other people in our family came over to sing to the birthday boy. I made his favorite, a chocolate cake with homemade mocha icing and I'll admit to doing it decently. He was very happy with everything that everyone did for him on his big day and I'm glad he enjoyed it.

The fun wouldn't end for me, even after dinner and cake, there was more in store. A couple of months ago my Sis called me to let me know she had purchased Willie Nelson tickets for an upcoming concert. Neither of us had ever seen him live before and I couldn't believe my Sister's generosity. You see, Willie was our Father's favorite singer and we had daily doses of his country coolness while growing up. Though I enjoyed every second I spent with Julie that day, three marvelous moments were at the concert. The first one was right before the show started. As we were walking to our seats, my Sis asked if we should exchange seats with our Aunt and Uncle who we met with for drinks, just minutes before. It was an excellent idea and emotion welled in my eyes, over it. How thoughtful and considerate is that?, She paid a good chunk of change for our superb seats and she wanted to let our loved ones enjoy them, instead. I surely didn't give a damn where our seats were, as long as I could hear him, that was my only care. It made me so proud that she would want our Aunt & Uncle to have the better seats and I hoped they would take her up on the wonderful offer. They didn't but it sure was sweet of her to ask them if they wanted to make a trade. Shortly after the show started, came my second smile. As usual, I was bouncing, rocking and singing along, really enjoying myself. My Sister then informed me that I was making her seat shake and she was certain the whole row was vibrating also. Sheesh, like it's a law to remain still at a show?.....hehehe, I loved that she gave me grief, she's my little Sis and that is still her job. Though  it seemed to be a sold out show, there was one empty seat next to my Sis and I imagined our dearly departed Daddy sitting right there, with us. What a wonderful day and night we had and I'll always remember it because of my Sister's kindness. Thanks Juw!

I have one thing left to mention before I get back to perogy pinching. This past weekend found my Hubby Bub and I taking our children and one of their friends out for a sleep over out in the county. Our friends invited us all to come for a visit on Saturday and we happily accepted. We planned on being there before dinner but had car troubles and didn't arrive until feeding time. As soon as we walked in there were warm greetings from our friend and their three dogs. One of them is a blood hound and it always gets me giggling to hear Ruby whine and howl her welcomes. The Wife part of our friend's came in not long after us and I had husked the corn we brought and waited for my Husband to BBQ the burgers and hot dogs. It was a simple meal but scrumptious all the same. Our friends also had some children there, three boys to be exact. Their two year old Grandson along with a four and five year old. My girlfriend and I were out numbered, in total there were eight males to keep us company. Never had I seen a bigger pack of penises in their pool!. It was completely comical watching my Husband toss the older kids into the waiting water. I can still hear their laughter and it's put a smile on my face, once again. Sunday was spent outside and poolside, like the day before and we were happy that the rain held off and made way for sunshine and heat. Our oldest Son was able to mark off some volunteer hours for school by babysitting and bedding down the youngest boys and they enjoyed watching movies with him and playing in the pool. All the kids were well behaved and it made for an enjoyable visit. There was a bit of stubbornness doled out by a certain young, Sir but it didn't ruin the day for any of us. Also, it seems someone had crabby cakes for breakfast but that was easily digested with all the smiles and sunshine. Thank you to my friends for always opening their home to us and making it a place we love going back to. Later in the Summer my boys and I are hoping to spend ten days out there and I for one, can't wait!

Well it's time for me to take off now, thanks for reading what's in the mind grounds and may this day be beautiful for us all. Of course I'll add some pictures of the terrific times we had. 








Wednesday 12 June 2013

Mermaid Marvelousness.....

That's how I'm choosing to describe some recent visits with friends. I know it's been a few weeks since I last laid lines here but this is a busy time of year for me. Though the Summer sun hasn't been sticking around much, it didn't stop us from sharing smiles with friends and family. Let me fill you in on what we've been up to. In my last entry, I somehow forgot to mention where I got my "mermaid on" first this season. It was during May 2-4 weekend at a very good friend's house. I believe it was May 19th to be exact and I loved every kid-less second I spent with her. My boys weren't to happy that I was going for a visit without them but their brutal behaviour brought it about. As I waited for my Husband to drive me over to her place, my friend and I made plans for the day. I was invited to dinner and couldn't wait to see her and her family again. I've been friends with this lady for over twenty-years and even though months may pass between visits, we never forget where we left our laughter. She's cracks me up, constantly and I always return home with sore sides from the belly shakes we've shared. My friend's Husband is a fine Fella and is always a humble, hospitable host. He barbequed ribs, burgers and hot dogs for us and I enjoyed gathering with them at their dinning tent and table. Their Daughter was having some friends over and it was a treat to see them being typical teenage girls. I remembered fondly how I spent many Summer days giggling with my girlfriends, getting our mermaid on, laughing in the lake or playing Marco Polo in some neighbourhood pool. Ahhhhh thoughts of youth, passed. It really is wasted on the young, you know. Also, I'm glad I had my gills on that day because their pool was cold as cubes of the ice kind. I did go in though, only briefly but I can proudly say, I was in water that was under sixty degrees.

My next Mermaid Marvelouness would take place at my Cousin's house. I believe it was Monday June 3rd. I peddled my pounds over to her place around lunchtime and brought left over homemade pizza for us to fill our faces with. It was delicious but not nearly as delightful as devouring the day with smiles and sharing stories. Though my Cousin didn't join me in their hip high pool, I soaked in the sun and splashed about while she shared say so's with me lounging in a lawn chair. We laughed and lingered on while sucking up sweet cloudless sunshine from the sky above. The weather wasn't humidly hot, just bright and beautiful, like my comical Cousin. Two days after this, my Son turned seventeen. Man that doesn't even look right, in reading it back. How can all those years have sped by so speedily?. Though his birthday this year wasn't as elaborate as some others, I think it went wonderfully. He had a nice breakfast, breaded fish and poutine for dinner, a birthday cake with peanut butter/chocolate icing and even a couple gifts thrown in, gravy, I say!. Next week we'll do much of the same for our youngest Senor, he'll be eleven. Yup, it's flying by but I'm good and grateful to be a part of it all. Shortly after this, my six year old Cousin would come for a sleep over at our house. We tried this two years ago but he didn't do well and wanted to go home. That didn't happen this time, he had a blast and loved spending time with his two older Cousins. I'll add a cute picture of them playing while waiting for the weather to warm up. It never did but they shared splash time in the tub more than once. That brings me almost up to date with lines laid here. One more gill goodness to share with you, this past weekend found my Son's and I spending the night with friends in Wheatley. We had a wonderful time and I'm shamed to say that our Aidn took the prize for pool time. We didn't get there until later in the day on Saturday so the supper I had made for us would have to wait until lunch, on Sunday. My friend had a birthday back in May but we were unable to do this, then. The edibles I offered were her birthday gift, one of her favorites, chicken and sliders (glissants) and I'm sure I've mentioned them here before. Our always generous and giving hosts made sure that feasts were had. For our visit, they crammed the cupboards with fabulous foods that have certainly added pounds to my super-sized self. One of the things I like most about our visits with theses friends is their easy going attitudes. Never do I see them up in nerves about anything and I'm always envious when witnessing that in others. I'll not drop names here but, a little wild one I know decided to fling a fit after midnight and I had no handle on it. Yup, I went and lost my lid, nothing to knotting, just stern, stubborn say so's flung from both sides of the fence. In the end, he was sent to bed. While the tantrum took place, my friend sweetly smiled and stayed calm while communicating with my kid. One day, I'll learn how to do that, I hope. Thank you to all of my friends and family for everything you offer me and mine. We are grateful for the good in ALL of you and everything you do!

Well, this day is getting by and I'm thinking, wet is in this Wednesday, for me. I'll add a few pictures from some of the precious time, mentioned above. Thanks for reading what's in the mind grounds and may this day be wonderful for us all!




Tuesday 28 May 2013

Lovely As Lilacs Was This Day In May.....

When thoughts of this past Saturday swim in the think tank, that's what I'll remember. It was lovely as lilacs and also the colour of my Cousin's wedding party. What a beautiful day, we were blessed with and a terrific time was had by all. The Bride (my first Cousin on my Father's side) is a beautiful, loving and very lively lady. She had hoped to be married a few years ago, before her Father fell ill and passed on but that wish washed away. I'm sure glad the dream of her perfect wedding didn't. The youngest of four children and the only girl among them, Shonna, like myself, has a slight stubborn streak in her and can be down right determined when her sights are set on something. It's one of the things I love most in her personality. As I lay these lines here, the mind grounds make back to our childhood, I'm reminded of their family pet, Seamus. An Irish Setter that had silky, shiny, strands of hair. Kind of like my Cousin did on Saturday. Now Shonna, if you're reading, please take no offense. I mentioned Seamus not to compare hairs, Hahaha!, but to share in how I do think you are like your old dog, in another way. Remember how you kids wouldn't let that poor dog alone?, you all put that pooches life to the test!. I can see it like yesterday, you four, saddling and spurring that Setter up!. Ahhh dearly departed, Seamus!. She always came back for more and was devoted to her loving family. Just like you, lady!. You're Daddy was and I'm sure, still is, very proud of you, we all are.

Like most elaborate, elegant events like this one, we all wanted to look our Sunday best, personally, I think we pulled it off, perfectly. Of course no one looked better than the Bride and I was happy to see her stunning self as she slowly stepped down the aisle. Did I mention, I was one of the very few to not see her dress before the big day?. It was well worth the wait and words don't do justice to how wonderful she and her Groom looked. I take from that day so many marvelous moments and memories made in them. Funny moments like, me stressing about the silky bows not sticking to the pews; I'm certain my dead Daddy and Uncle kept knocking them off!. I had only two jobs for this wedding and the bows got the best of me!. To seeing all of my loved ones laugh and love every second we shared. I don't think anyone who attended would disagree with me when I say, the terrifically touching dance with the Bride and her Brother's, was the most wonderful part. Though my eyes were never dry for long during the day and through the night, a lot of folks shared eye leaks with me as she danced with her oldest, middle and then youngest Brother. The kicker in the ticker was seeing pictures of days passed with their Father, playing on the projection screen behind them. Yup, I have tears typing this now. Another awesome moment was witnessing the Bride's Mother and her Uncle (her Father's Brother) walking Shonna down the aisle. Seeing so many people that years pass in between time shared, was a treat and it was extra special that some of my Husbands family was also there. The same family I once lived above. A treat indeed!. The food was fabulous and I will be finding out just where they get those little potatoes from. A sundae bar was set out and even poutine at midnight!. My Son's couldn't wait for that part. Desserts were made by a few family members and I was pleased that my oldest Son along with my Sister, added edible excellence. Dancing, chatting, laughing and feasting were things we all had fun doing. I'll always think of the efforts you and others made when looking back on May 25th 2013. Thank you Shonna and Marty!, whatever the price you paid to pull your big day off, we all enjoyed everything!, I hope it was worth it to you, we thought it was.

In ending this entry, I'd like to make mention of my Cousin's kindness and consideration. They should be on their Honeymoon now but instead are helping care for one of her Brothers, while he heals after a short slice under the knife. Things like that make my blood pumper pound proudly for my loved ones!, take a bow you two, you did done good!. With that, I'll say sayonara, for now and leave these lines with a few photos from the festivities. Thanks for reading what's in the mind grounds and may this day find you filled with love and laughter. 



Friday 17 May 2013

A Special Start To Summer.....

Yippy, skippy, dippy do!, it's here, FINALLY!. Today marks the official start of Summer for me and it looks like this day is going to be lovely as the lilacs that live outside my door. Ahhhhh!. It feels so good to be back in the warmth of the sun and I plan on sucking it up. Before I get into why today is so special, I'd like to share with you what's taken place in the time that's past since my last entry here.

I'll start with a stumble. As you may recall me mentioning, I stopped gnawing on my nails and was doing dandily with it. Sadness and uncertainty stepped in and I'm not happy to be typing of how I've fumbled (smacking my hands). Blue I've beaten myself over it but today I will stop the self sternness and attempt anew. You might already be aware of how hard and unforgiving I can be, with myself but tripping and trying again is something I'm gaining strength in. Okay, enough of all that, on to the sunnier say so's. Mother's Day this year was spent much the same way as several others that have passed. Many of us gathered at the nursing home to be with our Memeness. Though she has seen better days, I'm good and grateful that we were able to share another one with her. She slept most of the time but we were all pleased to see her eyes open a few times. Hubby Bub was able to snap a quick shot and I'll add it at the end of this entry. Though it's not a perfect picture of her, I'm peacock proud to be her Granddaughter and enjoy sharing pictures of the loved ones in my life. Our gentle and generous Aunt purchased food for everyone and we enjoyed a fine feast, chicken, potato salad, dinner rolls coleslaw and cookies were all consumed and it was a gift to be granted a meal that I didn't have to make. Thank you Auntie Sword game, my Husband insists our Aidn had five pieces!. I sure enjoyed it and the left overs were just as delicious.

After leaving the nursing home, on we went to my Mothers house. My Sister was going to make the drive for Mother's Day this year but decided to stay home and extend efforts for upcoming events. She is always living life like a shiny spinning top and no one can stop her, secretly, I hope she never slows down. Ever organized and living life in a very lively way.  Anyway, as always, she is missed when we gather and she isn't present. We stopped in for a brief visit to give my Mom her gift from the boys and I knew she would love it. Last month  while we were out with her, she spotted a beautifully coloured bowl but didn't end up buying it as her Husband felt the cost was to much for such an item. I'd like to add that he bought a blue fish and all the furnishings for it, that same day. She did give him grief when he mentioned his desire in buying the little blue gilled guy and brought up the bowl, again. I laughed knowing that I bought the bowl for her with thoughts of Mother's Day in mind. We didn't stay long but seeing her smile and go on about her gift was sweet enough for me. The gifts I received from our Son's were the best parts of my day. My youngest made me a card and gave me a cup coaster that his teacher knitted for each classmate. He was so excited and even hid it up in his room until the big day, seeing his excitement is always the most excellent, for me. Our oldest Son also extended effort and he was very thoughtful and unique in his gift. I absolutely love grape ice cream and there is a store close to where we live that sells some of the best. When I opened his gift I thought he had purchased this pail of ice cream from there. Nope, he did not. He made it, well, sort of. He started with vanilla ice cream and added grape flavoring. I am still savoring each spoonful but have had only a small amount each day since he gave it to me. If I devour it all in a weeks time, I'll be an even bigger beach ball before Summer even starts. Such simple yet superb surprises!, thank you boys, I love them!

It's been busy around here and this week we were able to make the trip to be with my Nephew for his thirteenth birthday, the big boy that towers over six foot tall man is now a teenager!. I can't believe how my Sister and I are Mothers of a teen. So far I don't have many complaints and I'm certain she doesn't either. My Sister's Son is a smart, sharing Sir and I'm certain he will be a marvelous man in coming years. His party took place at a local hotel that boasts of botanical beauty throughout the pool area and has a waterfall and water slide for aquatic enjoyment. We've being to this place a few times before and always enjoy going back. As usual, my Sister made sure that everyone had a good time and the efforts she puts into everything she does, always amazes me. We hadn't told our children that we were going and it was a surprise when they came in from school on Tuesday. It's hard to surprise our kids because one of em always hears something from someone but this time we were able to pull it off and that was a gift in itself. Many of my Nephews closest friends were there and it was a real pleasure seeing them all together enjoying everything the day had to offer. Our Mother and Step-Father were also there and I'm so glad we could be together for the celebration. Thank you for inviting us to join you, we had a great time and can't wait to see you again, soon.

Back to the blog title....
Today is the birthday of a fantastic friend. We had plans of celebrating at her house but her schedule has changed and we'll have to do it at a later date. I couldn't accept not giving her a gift today because we can't be together so I decided to offer her up this entry until I can spoil her right and proper, in person. This woman is very special to me. We met nearly two decades ago and enjoyed many a fine moment. Then we lost touch and have only reconnected in the last few years. She's helped me many times, like when I had my surgery and she stayed with the kids. Always extending efforts for others. She's someone I can count on to share smiles, selflessness and super sized servings of belly shakes!. Like my Sister, she has such a sunny way of seeing life and she's another one I'd like to clone for this planet we play on. Jenny, you know how much you mean to me and I hope in the days to come I can express it even further with edible efforts, good company and many helping hands to assist you in work or woes. We love you and hope that this birthday is your best one ever!. Take a bow lady, you amaze and are adored by so many, I raise my mug to you, now and look forward to us spending more time together this Summer. The last two have been super and we all enjoy every visit with you, your Hubby Bub and the pack of pooches. It's May 2-4 weekend woman, I hope it's wonderful for you! Happy Birthday to one of my finest friends!

Well that looks long enough for me and I'm sure your sight seer's will agree, thanks for reading whats in the mind grounds and may well health and happiness be ours, today.




Monday 6 May 2013

Internal Agony, External Efforts.....

In a few words, that sums up what's stirring inside myself. Though I'd like to be able place blame on it simply being Monday, I would be lying through my large load if I tried tossing that out here. I know why I'm struggling with internal agony today and I'm attempting external efforts by typing out my thoughts. In the past it's proven to help when I'm in a miserable mood. Though I realize I may be thinning my reading herd by offering up my ugly thoughts, I do this blog for myself and no one else. Well, except when I add one with sweet say so's about someone special to me, then, it's for them. Today, it's all about this single soul. That last short sentence sunk my sap sucker even lower than it already sat. What selfish, sad say so's those were. Oh well, out with it I'll get to and hope that it helps me when I'm through.

What's wrong with her?, may be what you're inquiring mind is curious about. I'm frustrated and fueling the fire by beating myself blue with expectations that haven't delivered delight, to me. Haha, did you understand that?. I should go further into detail, shouldn't I?. Yes, I should but I'll keep the heart of it silent because of respect I have for those involved with my agony. Besides, I told you this was going to be about me and for the love of life!, it will be. All that really matters in the miff of it is that I'm harboring hurt handed to me through the hands of ones I care for. Sometimes I really struggle with the actions of others, it stings more when they don't care to make any effort over what I've asked from them. I continually tell myself  "you can't change anyone or make them conform to your commands". It's never that I can't make someone do what I want, that bothers me, it's always the "why don't they want to do it for me" part that puts me in peril. From the moment I know my request is relinquished, my insides ignite the engine for internal agony to begin. I blame and belittle myself for what they've failed to finish. Not even considering why they may not be comfortable in the request. Instantly I tell myself how if I was better in this or that way, they would want to give me what I want. Looks a bit childish doesn't it?. I'm well aware of that, thank you.

Anyway, I know how hanging on to the hurt from it, can only hinder my happiness so I'll make external efforts to turn it around. There have been many marvelous moments since I last typed here, I'll tell you about some of them. My Cousin who will be wed in a couple weeks had her bachelorette party recently and I was pleased to be part of it. Thirteen of us gathered for dinner and then an evening of hen pecking and happiness. My Sister is the Maid Of Honor and made sure that we all had a good time. Our Aunt also helped out and we all enjoyed their efforts. The restaurant chosen by the Bride To Be was one I had never dined at before. It was a delicious meal and everyone echoed of the edible excellence. Once at our next destination, the hotel at the casino, we watched as our Cousin opened all of her gifts. Seeing her smiles and laughter that night was a present that each of us would leave the next day with. We then played a few games and had fun right up to the wee hours of Sunday morning. I took a few pictures but failed to remember snapping more shots as the night went on. Everyone had sorted out sitters for their children and the whole lot of us were spread through every space of the two room suite. I wish we could all gather like that every few months, it's always so much fun spending a night with fine females. The blushing bride seemed to really enjoy herself and it was great to see her step away from the stress of the coming big day, for the time we were there. We were even able to get our mermaid on!. After we swam and swapped stories of our lives, back to the hotel room we went for more girly giggling. I was often seen leaving as we were right across the street from the Detroit River and I love the night view of the city, I'm also a smoker; that's probably the more truthful reason. It had been a beautiful day for us and the weather outside was wonderful and welcoming after a long drawn out Winter. I could almost taste Summer in the air and was pleased when the warmth came to us in the coming week. A couple others joined me on a few visits to the water and it was nice to spend time with ladies I don't always see. The night ended when only two of us were left with eyes open. As her and I sat outside thinking of how nice it would be to go back and restart the night, I was filled with fineness of the day. How lucky I was to have a loving family that enjoys spending time together. It was a perfect day and I pray that my Cousins coming wedding will be the same.

Well I'm glad to say that I've failed here, failed in keeping this blog entry all about me. I love when I'm able to fail in this way and I've made myself feel better because of it. No one wants to read or hear about someone whining and that's where my words would have went, had I wallowed in it. Besides, I rather enjoy beaming about others and think we should all spend more time doing just that. If you were able to read this far, thank you!. I may type my blog for me but I always appreciate any eyes caring to see what I have to say. Included are two pictures from the party and a song that's serving me sweetly today. Thanks for reading what's in the mind grounds and may this Monday be the start of a wonderful week for us all!


Thursday 25 April 2013

Time Flies......

One of my favorite expressions is "Time Flies And Gains Speed With Each Passing Year". That sentence screams sincerity today. Before I explain why that is I'd like to share the story that started all this speediness. Back in 1985 I was babysitting next door, it was a hot, humid yet bright and beautiful July day. The two girls I was watching were a big part of my life and I'm happy to say they are still in it. I sat on the front windowed in porch reading while the oldest girl played in the room behind me and the little one was nestled in for a nap. The neighbourhood I grew up in was a small one, I've mentioned this before but the repeated reminiscing is brought up now because I was distracted from the book I was reading when I saw a handsome man walk by. You see, in my neck of the woods everyone knew each person that lived on our streets, personally and yes, we were even familiar with any visitors that came by ole Stop 26. The superb sight of this certain Senor, was one I had never seen before. As he casually walked past, my blood pumper pounded. His hair was spiked on top and long on the sides and back, his eyes I could see before he was even in ear shot range; not like I had nerve enough to say anything. To this day, I don't recall seeing peepers that seem so speckled with sparkle from the blue sky above. The only thing more noticeable to me than his sight see'rs , was his sniffer. I've always taken a liking to Fellas with a long snout and this marvelous looking man  had the nicest nose. How could this stranger be walking around my street unknown?,  he must be a thief. Indeed he was because he stole my heart that day. Everything in me wanted to drop my book, run and introduce myself but at the tender age of fourteen, I was to intimidated by his good looks and chickened out. He sure did sink in the think tank though and later that day I would discover who this young man was.

As I mentioned, we lived right next door to where I was employed, in a duplex. My Father, Sister and I lived in the upper half while a couple (friends of my Father's) with their two Daughters occupied the lower portion. I was friends with both the girls and the oldest came over to visit me while I babysat that day. Upon her arrival I asked if she had seen the gorgeous guy that was walking our street a couple hours earlier?, I described in detail the vision of him that had yet to leave my head. She laughed and said "I think you're talking about my Cousin, I can introduce you, if you like". Her Cousin?, if  I like?, well strike me smiley, schweet!, I was going to meet him. My heart raced in anticipation of this event. Yes, I said event, I was fourteen, everything was an event back then.(hehe) She explained how her Aunt and Uncle came down with some of their kids. Hours away they lived, near Ottawa and returned home for their family reunion. As she told me how they were related it dawned on me that I was living upstairs from "The Awesome Eyed Stranger's" Aunt and Uncle and that my Father had known his Mother and Father since childhood, wow!, what good fortune for me. I'm getting ahead of myself here, sorry. It's those speeding years to blame, kinda makes it all buzz by, when looking back.

True to her word, my friend went across the street to fetch her family. I waited on the front porch of her unit, trying to tame my excitement as sweat surfaced instead of seeping into my skin. As she and her two Cousins walked towards me I could feel the birds in my belly, yes, birds, butterflies are to small to describe what whipped inside me and it's love birds I believed them to be. Good glory he was gorgeous! and though I did notice his sweet smiling, Sister next to him, it's his attention alone that I was after. She introduced us and as I beamed, he batted his eyes towards the driveway below us. Shy doesn't do justice in describing his reaction to our introduction and I hardly heard him say hello, I'll let you all know that he still mumbles.(hehe) I tried to come up with good conversation but his tongue tripped over that task. Silence sliced through the awkward moment we were in and ended when one of us; I don't recall if it was his Sister, Cousin or I but the suggestion was made to go "hang out" at the old St Therese school. Oh the memories I have of that space!. It had long been closed when I came of age to attend but boy did we play on that abandoned acre or so. Did I mention it was down only a few doors from where I lived and right next to "The Stranger's" Grandfather's house?. After that day, I wouldn't see "Sir Stole My Heart"  until the following year. The next 365 days would find me making several bad choices but that's another blog entry entirely.

When he did return the next year, I was able to spend time alone with him and we even went to the show. There's a lot to be said about time apart and the guts it can give you. He didn't ask me out to the movies, I asked him and from that moment on, my nerve never gave me another problem when it came to men. We both recall what we went to see even though our eyes weren't on the screen so much. About Last Night was the name of it and I think I've mentioned it in a prior entry. Sorry folks, I'm aging and repeating oneself is part of the process. Distance and being young in years stopped us from the relationship becoming more than friends, but we would again hook up for good, five years later. Anyway, back to the title of today's blog. Time has flown and continues to gain speed. On this day, twenty-one years ago, I married that man that strummed my heart strings and still does. Today I will celebrate my Husband and all he has given me over the years. I'm also crossing my everything in hopes that The Big Guy gifts us many more years together.
Blessed I've been and on bended knee, pray to boast as such in the future.

Well this looks wordy enough and I'm in an excited way to get into this day so I'll say "see ya soonly" and hope that well health and happiness are yours. I will include two pictures, the first is of the church I proudly called my parish and it sat right across from the school I spoke of above. Nowhere online was there a picture of St Therese and only one of the church. Unfortunately, Hubby and I weren't married there but it also holds happy memories for me so I'll add it here. The second shot is of my Husband and I back in 1990 when he moved here from his families house near Ottawa. It's slightly shocking seeing us so young and unwed. Yes indeed everyone, time does fly and gain speed. Don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise!
(I edited this to add a pic from our Annivesary evening out)









Monday 15 April 2013

Two Sisters: Sunshine & Moon Beam......

Well I'm sure you know which one I am.
Though I mention my sunny Sister often, I felt the need to type about her today. You may be wondering why that is. If you care to read on, I'll try to put into words why she is so much on my mind grounds this morning. Lately I've been going through changes, along the way I've been encouraged by my younger and much wiser sibling. It never seems to matter how stubborn or sour I can be, she is always there to offer her support, even though I'm well aware she secretly longs to slug me. Sometimes I think she should, maybe it would stir up some sense in me on those days that I struggle. Over the past couple weeks we've had a few phone conversations that have had me thinking down right deeply about who I am and how I can serve the people I care for in a more positive way. She has a way of getting under my skin and swimming in the think tank, more than most. I honestly couldn't stand her as we were growing up and I often asked "The Big Guy" to remove her from my life, I'm very shamed to state this but it is the truth. I definitely don't ask him for that now. Not only do I adore her but she constantly inspires me to give more of myself when I feel like laying down the life in me. What changed my feelings from sour to sweet?. I really don't know when it happened, it's not like a light went on or anything but through the years, I've seen why it is so many folks flock to her. She is by far the sunniest soul I have ever encountered. Often do I wish she could be cloned and spread throughout the world. She has the whole package people!, charming, dedicated, funny, witty, wise and ever so beautiful, inside and out!. I hope you can feel the pride I have for her in these lines I've laid because it is my inclusive intention. Unlike her stubborn Sister, she avoids confrontation at all costs and constantly compromises to make others comfortable. I often mention how blessed and lucky I feel to have so many kind, considerate people in my life but few do justice to those two words like Julie does. I'll give you an example of her efforts.

We allowed our youngest Son to have a friend sleep over on Saturday night and decided to take the kids to a life long, loved location. Colasanti's is where we ended up on Sunday, you local readers know where the  spot I speak of is. I spoke with my Sis yesterday to tell her about the great day we had and how our Mother and Step Father joined us in it. She was happy to hear of it and told me of a conversation she had with our Mother recently. I knew instantly that Julie's dedication and determination had something to do with our Mother's marvelous mood yesterday. Yes folks, I can tell right away when someone has had "a talk" with Juw. The woman just has a wonderful way about her and I'm beaming now just because she's my lil Sis. (I was not paid for this praise) Though there were rain clouds and cold all around, sunshine and serenity sliced through our weather woes. Mom and I had pleasant conversations about many things and I was so happy that she accepted the invitation to join us. We shared, good food, laughter, smiles, some exercise and most of all, marvelous memories. I also purchased our Mother's gift for our big day in May. Yup, I'm pretty pleased and can't wait to see her face when she opens her present. Returning home last night and talking to my Sister was the perfect ending to a dandy day. Monday's aren't always great for me but I'm feeling pretty good in this one. Also, I received words of hope from a friend that I've been filled with worry over so my day really did end on a good note all around. There are two things I'd like to quickly mention before leaving these lines. Our oldest Son continues to make excellent efforts at school and yes, my Sister also had a hand in lighting that spark. Our youngest Son was awarded the most improved player medal on his hockey team last week and I couldn't be more pleased with his puck progress.

Well I see the sun is out and it's not something we've eyed in awhile so I'll bid you all a mayhem free Monday and hope that you'll be happy and well in it. I'll leave a few pictures since my last entry, along with two favorites of my Sis. Thanks for reading what's in the mind grounds!










Friday 5 April 2013

Different Day, Same Duties......

Well it's the truth, I'm knee deep in dough once again. Don't read me wrongly, I'm not woeful about it. Actually I'm quite well and wonderful at the moment. I wasn't so, a couple of hours ago. Nothing that a good talking to and reading of others struggles, couldn't take care of though. The sun is shining and I still have all my loved ones with me in this world, what's not winning with that?
This blog my take awhile in getting posted for you, I'm making perogies and can only type in between boiling batches. It's also helpful that I'm busy because if I wasn't, it would be sucking on the sourness of myself for the remainder of this day. I woke filled with woe and worry, on a Friday, who dos that?. Anyway, I've been meaning to add another entry here. I wanted to type about the excellent Easter we had.

Though I wasn't able to make it to Good Friday's mass, I did partake in Passover and though it was nearly three hours long, I enjoyed every spiritual second. As you may remember me mentioning in my last blog, my Godchild's confirmation was at this mass and I was honored to be asked as her sponsor. Never would I have thought twenty years ago that I would be participating in any mass, never mind being a Godparent. It does my blood pumper proudly that she will attend our oldest Son's Catholic high school, next year. Her Mother was also Confirmed and I was glad that they did it together, it was sweet to celebrate their new sacrament with them. On Sunday my Hubby Bub had to work and the boys and I didn't do much with the day until he returned home. Dinner was had at my Uncle's house where we joined many members of my family for the fabulous feast. There was turkey, mashed potatoes, roasted lamb, baked beans, shrimp, perogies, veggies, gravy, dinner rolls, meatballs and much more that I'm not recalling at the moment. We all widened our waistlines and wonderful just doesn't do justice to the efforts everyone made.I was so proud that my Uncle asked everyone over, the older we all become the more frantic I feel from time trickling by.

Like my last lines laid here, I'll keep these short because a beautiful day is upon us and I want to entertain myself elsewhere. I managed to snap a few shots from the Conformation and Easter so I'll post them here. Thanks for reading what's in the think tank and for the love of Friday, I hope you're happy and in well health!


Friday 29 March 2013

Cross To Bare.....

That's what's in the mind grounds on this Good Friday, specifically, the one Jesus was nailed to. I am knee deep in perogy dough and in a well way. I hope you all are in the same state. I'm looking forward to spending the Bunny's big day with many branches in our bunch. One of our Uncles is preparing turkey dinner for all of us and it has me very happy in the heart. You see, this Uncle hasn't always been real close to many of us over the years but in the past few, he's made excellent efforts to include all of us in his life. I'm also looking forward to my God Child's Conformation, tomorrow night. Her family has recently taken up the Catholic faith and it pounds my blood pumper proudly to be included in the celebration. I'm a bit bummed that I couldn't attend Good Friday mass, it's one of my favorites in the year. Pounding perogies is what I committed myself to though so I'll settle for Easter Vigil with family members tomorrow. I did however get on my knees to pray and offer thanks at 3pm so I hope the Big Guy is good with that :)

This week has been a wonderful one and figured I'd add a second entry to enhance it. My friend made it through surgery and is waiting to see if it was a success. Thank you to all who prayed or thought positively, for her. It's beautiful outside, in my homespace. For the first time this year, windows are open and I keep sneaking outside to suck up some of that sweet sunshine. I am very anxious for the nice weather to arrive. High hopes I have in anticipation of getting my backside on my bike. Winter wasn't the worst here but I'll be glad when all evidence of it has left my environment. I'm just itching to get my mermaid on in Lake St Clair or Lady Erie and I can't tell you how much I'm looking forward to tent sleeps under the stars. Oh how Summer satiates me!. I really can't think of much else to type so I'll leave these lines less lengthy than usual and wish you all an awesome Easter. I will add a picture my Husband snapped of our oldest Son and I earlier this week. Thanks for reading what's in the mind grounds and may this day find you in a fabulous way.



Wednesday 27 March 2013

Fantasy Frequencies.....

As I woke this morning and readied myself for my daily routine, thoughts of trading places with someone I love, trickled through the think tank. I've thought about it many times since the person I'm referring to has entered my life. Actually for the last year and half, these fantasy frequencies (that's what I call em) have come and gone. Usually, like now, it's at a time when my friend is in her worst way or I am. You see, she's having surgery today and I'm all kinds of antsy about it. For obvious reasons but also additional ones. I've mentioned this wonderful woman before in my blogs and I'm sure my regular readers know who I'm speaking of. For those of you that are new to this space, I'll give you a quick review. My friend's name is Christine and she is my Husband's first Cousin, she recalls me from childhood but I can't make the same statement of her. I do remember getting an invitation to her wedding some twenty-two years ago but I hadn't recalled ever meeting her or her Husband. Anyway, she wasn't a person I knew, I only recall being introduced once and didn't have the pleasure of her presence in my life, until recently. Today she is much on my mind, like she has been since offering me her friendship several months ago. Getting back to the title at hand....

Fantasy frequencies is what I've been having, frequently. Often when I feel like this it's when I'm not in a well way, within my own self. I think of how much better it would be for her family and mine if we could switch spaces. I think of how I've failed my Husband, children, family, friends and also myself. If we could change places, it would be wonderful!. I'd be sick and unable to do what was required of me. She would be free, mobile and healthy, able to achieve anything!. I've learned in the past year that when this happens it's at a time when both of us have been in need of something. I'm not certain if she's received what she needs but I can tell you that I sure have and The Big Guy gave it to me by way of Chrissy's own kindness. I haven't spoken to her recently but knew she wasn't in a good way. Our friendship is a very breezy but beautiful one and we always pick up where we last left off. Months will pass between us having a visit but she is often on my mind and always in my prayers. I can't tell you how many times just a thought of her and what she's struggled through, has set me straight and smiley, today is no different.

Last night my Husband took me out for dinner, the second time in less than a week and trust me folks, that NEVER happens. When we returned, I glanced at the calls on our phone and saw that Chrissy had called only ten minutes before we walked in. Sadly, I didn't call her back as I wanted to bathe and go watch a movie that we picked up. I did think about calling her, several times as we watched "Unknown". How fitting that title is for this day. My Husband knew that she's been on my mind because I mentioned that I hadn't heard from her and figured she was struggling with things. He didn't tell me to call her and put off the movie, like I had hoped he would. I've done that a few times with other friends recently and got blasted for it so I didn't want to do it again. How many times do you wish you could just go back a few hours in time and do something different?, right now, that's me, well and the trading places thing to. I would trade places with her if I could, not because of my "Irritable Self Syndrome"  but instead, so she could live her life the way she wants instead of having to live it consumed by pain. If today were my last day on earth, I would happily state that I did everything I wanted to except swim in an ocean and pet a pelican. I would also make this switch with other loved ones. Thoughts of my Meme are all in me when I'm in this way. What would my Grandmother give to be younger, pain free and again mobile?. I know that occupying my mind grounds with such senselessness isn't smart but it does make me focus on the gifts I have of today so maybe it does serve me sweetly, after all :)

I made mention of "Chrissy's Kindness" above and I'll elaborate now. This morning after a couple of days feeling useless, unloved and unheard around here, I read back on blog entries from my friend and recalled all the times she's made me feel better about myself by sharing herself with me. Reading that she would be having surgery today, belted my blood pumper. Instantly, my "head voice" said "see, you should have called her back last night, you Ninny!", then I stopped and thought. What would your friend want for you if you could ask her now?. I knew she would want me to appreciate the gifts I have, in not only my good health but the happiness I receive from those around me. Simple, right?, well today it is but I make no promises pertaining to the future because my feelings are far to finicky for that.

I could sit here all day typing about the things I love and look up to in each of my friends and family members but I feel the need to get back on my knees again, time for another talk with the Big Guy!
Thanks for reading what's in my mind grounds and may we all be as blessed to see
tomorrow as we are in the beauty of today!
P.S I'll add two pictures that have much meaning to my friend, one is from a local artist Wade Clark and the other is one of my own.